Introduction to Masturbation

Introduction to Masturbation

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 Masturbation Guide for women and men too (just not the vagina part)
Written By Lexie Berg, Owner of GoodBoyBilly.com 

What your gonna need: A clean towel. A music Playing device. Lube or your own spit.

  Today I wanna help those who have a curiosity about masturbation. Masturbation is completely normal. I masturbate daily and have a sexual partner. It is completely normal to want to masturbate even if you are having sex every day. I don't want this article to be some long winded babble about things you already know. I do not claim to be an expert or medical professional. I just enjoy sex, masturbation and all things related. I have experience in sex and masturbation and I enjoy teaching others. I enjoy talking about the subject and I enjoy allowing an open safe space for my friends (sometimes strangers) to privately talk with me about anything.
 

 Masturbation does not have to be a big production. I personally rarely take my clothes off when I masturbate. I enjoy just a vibrator on the couch, thru my clothes, in an empty house. It does not take me long. However, I know not everyone is like that. So lets go with a traditional expectation that your gonna be naked. At least from the waist down. We are also going to assume, for this article that we don't have toys. This is gonna be a traditional, hands only, naked masturbation session. With that said I cannot stress the importance of using a lube. I like my own spit, but not everyone does. Not everyone is comfortable spitting on their hand and then rubbing it on themselves. So, buy a lube. If you have never bought a lube before, no worries. Start with an inexpensive water based lube. Coconut oil works too, but make sure its unrefined virgin cold pressed. And don't steal it from the kitchen, get your own. If its your kitchen, you might wanna get a separate one for this specific use. 
 

 Once your ready for the actual act, say you have your lube, and your feeling in the mood. Where do you go? Well if its your first time your definitely want to be somewhere that you can expect a certain level of privacy. Whether that's an empty house or a locked bedroom or bathroom. Make sure you know you wont be interrupted. If you are gonna be in the bathroom, and its a shared bathroom, its good to make sure its clean. Mostly because you are gonna be sitting in the tub and you don't want to realize how dirty it is after sitting down naked excited to masturbate, it will kill the mood. I have often used the want to masturbate as a great excuse to clean the bathroom. No one usually wants to help with that, and it will give you a certain level of being left alone. ***Don't use chemical cleaners in a closed non-ventilated bathroom!! Make sure if you are gonna clean the shower, do it with proper ventilation. I have made this mistake before, its not fun****  
 

 Okay, we have our spot. Anything else? Yes, bring music. Preferably some sort of thing that will help make some noise so you don't feel like you have to be especially quiet. Night time masturbation might be a little different if you share a house with others, don't be so loud with music that you keep people awake. Just enough noise so you don't feel like the whole world knows what your doing. The type of music is up to you. I personally like club music. Something with someone singing about big butts and what they want to do to those butts. I also like to have a way to look at some pornographic images. This is not for everyone. That's okay. It is not necessary. I don't always want it either. 
  
   Oh yeah, now we got our place and our props. Is it getting hot in here? Now what? Lets get naked and sit down. If your gonna be in the bathroom, sometimes just a clean towel on the bathroom floor is a good place to sit, with your back on the wall or the outside of the bathtub. Avoid leaning on the door because your movements on the door will draw attention if your not home alone. If you have gone as far as to make sure your tub is up to par to sit in, sit in it. Run some warm water in the bottom of the tub, but only an inch or two on the bottom, just enough to warm that cold tub up. Water makes a terrible lube and you do not want it interfering with your playtime. If your on your bed or somewhere fluffy, maybe just throw a towel down to catch any lube that will most definitely drip. 

 Once your comfortable and confident you wont be interrupted. Start by sitting down, naked, with your legs slightly apart. Your clit is right above where your pee comes out. I like to hold my vagina lips open with one hand, and use my other hand to softly stroke my clitoris. This is when the lube comes in handy, warm it up on your hand first, because it will feel cold. This is gonna be about you learning what you like. I start out really soft at first, feeling myself get more and more turned on. Your clitoris will become more obvious the more turned on you get. Yes, it will swell with blood. Once I get really turned on, I usually flip over, and use one hand to do what two were doing. I use my index finger and my ring finger to hold my lips open, and my middle finger to stimulate my clitoris. For some, this is all it will take, and after a bit of enjoying themselves they will feel a release. For me, and others, it takes a little more. Once I get to the point of really enjoying myself, usually shortly after flipping over. I use all of my fingers and a lot of pressure just slightly above my clit, mostly on my pelvic bone, in a rotating motion and "push" into my climax. I find it really helps to move as tho someone is getting me from behind. Like rocking on my knees forward and back just slightly. I also like to get myself off more then once in a session. Usually because if I get one, I know I want another and its usually super easy to get. Its not always like that tho. So don't push yourself. Just feel the pleasure and let yourself relax for a minute or two. 
   Once I'm finished, I wipe up with the towel and wash my hands. Then go about my normal day. It really does not have to be big deal. You'll be smiling and feel more relaxed all day. 

  Thank you for reading. I hope this helps some people. Remember, never feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. Masturbation is a great way to have fun with yourself and its health benefits are enormous.

 Again, my name is Lexie Berg, owner operator of GoodBoyBilly.com. Home for all your name brand sexual health toys and DVDs. 
  Feel free to contact me with any questions about anything at goodboybilly5@gmail.com

Happy Masturbating!